“Power of Coaches”


Principal, Chief Executive Officer

Last Wednesday, my son played in his last high school soccer game. It was, and continues to be, an extraordinarily emotional experience for me.

I had been a mediocre soccer player in college, but I always loved the sport. So, I started teaching my kids to play when they could barely walk. I began coaching both of my kids when they started playing organized soccer, and I coached my son’s team until they went to high school. I wasn’t really that great of a coach. But I always tried to follow the advice of one of my dad’s friends, who was another coach. He said he his biggest job was to help the kids get better and to help them love the game; if he did those two things, they would keep playing, keep improving and keep having fun. That sounded good to me, so that is what I tried to do. We didn’t win much. However, seven of the starters playing Wednesday night, were players who had started with me, now so many years ago.

When they entered high school, they received better coaching. The local high school coach is somewhat revered in our local community. Through getting to know him better this year, I have become part of his “cult”. (His name to remain anonymous, only to protect his privacy).

I remember watching one game–the referee made what might be considered a bad call against our team. Our players seemed upset about it, but I could hear Coach yelling from the sidelines “let the ref do his job, just focus on playing the game.” This was in strict contrast to that of many of our competitors.

I learned that this coach had won an award a few years ago from the Positive Coaching Alliance. That seemed nice, but not very important. But I started to see the impact he was having on my son. My son loved being part of that team and loved that coach on and off the field.

Another time during a game, Coach was yelling, “Only positive talk out there, guys!” And, in an email exchange, he told me he was trying to help them understand a new paradigm of masculinity. One mom told me she had never known that a coach could have so much influence on people.

But what impressed me most of all was something I learned only from another parent. (I suppose influencing the kids to communicate, did not extend to their parents!). She told me the Coach had required the kids to memorize a poem. The team recited it together while running laps. Anybody who did not memorize the poem was off the team. And, he referred back to the poem continuously. “Look it up,” she said, and I did.

The poem is about being a good person:

This team placed fourth in our league, losing to the eventual winner in the semi-finals and regional playoffs. We, the parents, who had spent so many weekends watching these boys grow up and play together, watched them (last Wednesday) battle to the end with incredible passion. In a way, seeing them battle and eventually lose, made me more proud than merely winning.

My son’s team, though falling short in the playoff’s, was a good team. But most importantly, it was a really good TEAM, and a team of good individuals—people who will do GOOD in this world.

Coach not only had an impact on those young men, he had an impact on us as parents. I think his lessons were lessons in leadership:

  • Be a good person.
  • Help those around you to be better people.
  • Support each other.

As my dad’s friend, who was also a coach, said, “Help people on your team to have fun. Help them to get better. Build a team of people trying to do that, and you will never lose in any way that matters.”

Thank you, Coach; thank you kids. You have become great people, and you have taught me things.

Adam Sachs, PE

Associate, Mechanical Engineer

Amy Pitts, MBA, BSN, RN

Medical Equipment Project Manager

Andy Neathery

Technology BIM Specialist

Angela Howell, BSN, RN

Senior Associate, Medical Equipment Project Manager

Anjali Wale, PE, LEED AP

Associate Principal, Senior Electrical Engineer

Austin Barolin, PE, CEM, LEED AP O&M

Senior Associate, Senior Energy Analyst

Beth Bell

Principal, Chief Financial Officer

Bilal Malik

Associate, Senior Electrical Designer

Brennan Schumacher, LEED AP

Associate Principal, Lighting Design Studio Leader

Brian Hageman, LEED AP

Associate Principal, Plumbing Discipline Lead

Brian Hans, PE, LEED AP

Associate Principal, Senior Mechanical Engineer

Brian J. Lottis, LEED AP BD+C

Associate, Senior Mechanical Designer

Brianne Copes, PE, LEED AP

Senior Associate, Mechanical Engineer

Bryen Sackenheim

Principal, Technology Practice Leader

Carolyn Carey

Medical Equipment Project Manager

Related Content


Interested in what you see? Subscribe to receive monthly news and information
more tailored to what you need.

    This site uses cookies to ensure you have the best experience and to analyze our traffic. Read more in out Privacy Policy.